The “Buts” of Comparison – #LiveFreeThursday with Suzanne Eller

HeartonComparisonCrack kills—everyone knows that. And most people know they shouldn’t do drugs. But in our blogging/writer community, drugs are not our greatest enemy. Instead, it is the dark horse lurking about seeking to devour anyone who will turn their attention his way.

His name?

Comparison.

And left unrestrained, I submit to you: COMPARISON KILLS.

Comparison shows up at our doors on those dull days when we decide to peek around the sides of our Savior to see how everyone else is doing.

Suddenly, our minds begin bubbling over with envy as we unwisely compare ourselves with others, then the “but” darts begin to fly…

But she’s got 2300 followers. I have 30.

But this chick gets to speak to large arenas of people. And I haven’t spoken since…when was that, actually??

But nobody reads my stuff. So, why even bother?

I am constantly intertwined with my flesh. The sinful beast that is me is continually whispering lies into my ear… If you’re like me, I would venture your beast whispers to you too…

Why keep going? It is such a sacrifice to write and all of 20 people read it? Maybe?

You don’t really have anything to say anyway. Besides, she says it better and has a lot more readers. Just let HER carry the torch.

You aren’t even that great of a writer. There are others who ‘nail’ it. You aren’t one of them.

Maybe some of it is true, and maybe not.

The thing is that the word of truth is in me. These words that burn with the passion of gospel have to come out.

True Story: I never wanted to be a writer, I just AM one.

It is something God put within me and no amount of lies or excuses release me from His plans for my life.

A Screeching Halt

The lies and “buts” of comparison must come to a STOP. Insert squealing tire sound here.

The problem boils down to two basic things:
1. I want to be recognized.
2. My definition of S-U-C-C-E-S-S is faulty. (And I am not “successful”)

I totally HATE that it always comes back to this: I want to have a “name” with lots of people who listen to me. Just when I convince myself recognition doesn’t matter to me, the comparison monster shows up at my door with nasty drool stringing from his jaws.

Rom 11:36 For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen. (ESV)

“To HIM be glory forever.”

I am a proverbial glory stealer. All glory and honor and power belong to God and God alone (Rev. 4:11). Why am I trying to get my hooks into any of it? Ridiculous. Even if it ever felt like “mine” it would never truly be mine. Plus everything is all about Jesus. Why make it about me? I’m nothing without Him.

The only “name” I really need is the “Name above all names.”

De-bunking Our Definition of Success

Success has become a farce in many ways for the believer. The “if you build it they will come” philosophy is sinking its sharp talons into our minds. Success is frequently reduced to a game of numbers, programs, bells and whistles.

“BUNK,” as my Grandmamma used to say. Those things don’t define real success. Success isn’t limited to an outward flourishing of “stuff.”

Can success include these things?

Sure.

But is true success in ministry more than all these things?

YES.

Jesus didn’t build programs, write books or have a booming blog.

Jesus told people the truth.

And if anyone evaluated the ministry of Jesus based solely upon our common definition of success, He would be considered a failure.

But Jesus’ focus was single:

For I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will but the will of him who sent me. (John 6:38)

How often do we look around and think we have to do what everyone else is doing?

How often does that result in doing our own will as opposed to God’s?

Bottom line? True success is knowing and doing the will of God out of a heart of love for Him, then sharing His truth with others. If it results in zero, one or 20 people that come to Him (not US), we can always rest in the fact that it is God and God alone who gives the increase. We need only be faithful with His words.

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:19-20)

And the best advice I can give to you (and myself) is this:

You do what you do. God equipped you uniquely to serve Him and to minister to particular people in a particular way. Your equipping is not mine, and vice versa.

And.

Extinguish the “but” darts of comparison before they extinguish you.

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You might find me linking with these lovlies:

Testimony Tuesday with Holly

#RaRaLinkup with Kelly http://purposefulfaith.com/

Woman 2 Woman with Meredith

Three Word Wednesday with Kristin http://www.kristinhilltaylor.com/

#TellHisStory with Jennifer Dukes Lee http://jenniferdukeslee.com/

#LiveFreeThurdsay with Suzanne Eller, http://tsuzanneeller.com/

Coffee for Your Heart with Holly

http://arabahjoy.com/ — Grace and Truth

#DancewithJesusLinkup, http://www.susanbmead.com/blog-2/

Fellowship Fridays, http://equippinggodlywomen.com/

TGA Writes

http://wp.me/p5NQtb-6Z

And.Extinguish the “but” darts of comparison before they extinguish you.

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7 thoughts on “The “Buts” of Comparison – #LiveFreeThursday with Suzanne Eller

  1. I really enjoyed reading your post today! I came over from #livefree Thursday. I can relate in some ways. I have never wanted to be a writer, I just felt God calling me to do it so I went for it. I have no desire to be “famous” or to speak in front of groups, yet when I went to other blogs today, I felt a twinge of jealousy when I saw the number of comments they had. I had to remind myself that God put me in this place, at this time, and I am writing for HIM, not to see how many comments I can get. Thanks for this reminder: “True success is knowing and doing the will of God out of a heart of love for Him, then sharing His truth with others. If it results in zero, one or 20 people that come to Him (not US), we can always rest in the fact that it is God and God alone who gives the increase. We need only be faithful with His words.”

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  2. Perfect- I am right behind you on the livefree link up and I have been meaning to visit your blog from our iron group 🙂 I love what you are sharing here and I totally get where you are coming from. Yes- why bother is what I think at times as well… but those are toxic thoughts that help no one 🙂 I am happy that you are pursuing your calling and you are making a difference! God measures differently and continually invites us to reframe our reality. I am grateful for your honest and encouraging words! Write on- sister.

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  3. Perfection! I love ALL OF THIS. “Jesus didn’t build programs, write books or have a booming blog.” AMEN!!!!!!! Thank you for speaking truth from all the raw places, and for encouraging me today (I seriously needed this!). #livefreeThursday

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  4. Comparison kills and steals so much joy. I’m glad you wrote about this. Good stuff. And I’m glad you linked up at #ThreeWordWednesday.

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  5. Oh so true. That comparison monster sometimes taunts me, too. Such a beautiful reminder – “True success is knowing and doing the will of God out of a heart of love for Him, then sharing His truth with others.” Thank you. Your neighbor at Kelly’s 🙂

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  6. “Comparison shows up at our doors on those dull days when we decide to peek around the sides of our Savior to see how everyone else is doing.” This is great!! I appreciate you linking it up with us at Grace & Truth!

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