Taking SEX from Shame-FULL to Shame-LESS
Healing the Broken Bedroom Friday
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (ESV)
I have always felt like sex was a shameful act.
I didn’t know much about it except that “good girls” don’t do that. And, it was “no-no” stuff. From time to time I experimented in varying degrees. But after, I felt so guilty and especially shameful.
And honestly? I should have felt shameful, but for the right reasons.
I built wrong thoughts of sex in my brain influenced by my up-bringing and some of my own conclusions. Those thoughts put me a speeding train that nearly destroyed my marriage.
I was not thinking about sex on God’s terms. Even if I said, “Yeah, yeah…I know it is good. God made it. It has to be good, right?”
In my mind I was still stuck in shame.
Un-stucking My Shame-FULL Views
I never really fully believed God’s words about sex. That “good girl” of the past kept whispering that sex was “dirty, nasty, and shame-FULL” in my ear.
I didn’t want to be any of those things. So, I believed lies for 18 years. Those lies caused me to construct walls of “protection“ around myself so I didn’t have to do the “nasty.”
But that is just it. It isn’t nasty. Or dirty…or SHAME-FULL.
God made it for husband and wife to “be fruitful and multiply.” And to “cleave” to one another.
He made it to be a shame-LESS expression of love. I just needed to be convinced of that. I need HIM to convince me of that.
And after 18 years, I broke completely. I got raw and HONEST with the Lord.
I told Him “Yeah God, I know you said…BUT, I don’t really believe that! How can that possibly be true?”
He didn’t strike me dead. Nope. (not this time!)
By His Spirit He took me to verses I had read and heard teaching on countless times. He did a little open-brain surgery. Those verses opened up life-giving truth to me I had never understood before.
That’s the power of God’s word! He wants to “Un-stuck” each of us. He doesn’t want us living feeling shameful for things He made to be good. We have to take Him at His word.
If you’re stuck in shame, I want to help you if I can! Check out this recent post on my journey with God. (I even did a short Vlog!)
Let’s heal together and LIVE FREE in Christ together!!
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